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When did you last discuss a big decision with a friend or colleague?
I ask because I rarely do. Being an introvert means I tend to keep my thoughts close to my chest and limit what I share to those closest to me. It is a weakness that I fear has left many of my decisions in tatters.
The only perspectives I've considered are the ones I've created — and until recently, they haven't been very expansive.
My viewpoint has been too narrow. Now, I can see this has been a mistake.
Writing about decisions means digging into the complex world of deciding.
It means looking at the playbook of success and working out what works and doesn't work. With a growing understanding of mental models, of how utterly destructive — and equally life-saving our cognitive biases are too good decision-making, I'm beginning to see the gaps in my own method of deciding. There are many gaps, but I knew there would be.
The gap I'm focusing on is one of perspectives.
Yes, you can use the two 10/10/10 questions to give you perspectives of the past and the future, but these remain your perspectives. The influence of biases, limited perspectives and incomplete information have soiled them. Of course, everything is soiled — it's a case of finding the least spoiled view. The way forward comes from moving beyond your perspective and getting someone else's.
There may be no better perspective than someone else's.
Collaboration brings perspectives
Talking brings collaboration.
Collaboration is the power of joining minds and bodies together and with it — a release of energy far greater than you can summon on your own. Collaboration is a distinctly human trait. It, along with imagination and communication has given humanity the ability to be the dominant species on this planet. Working together has given us comfort, extended our time alive and reduced the risks which threaten it.
Collaboration is often a missed opportunity.
We all think differently.
Talking, discussing, sharing — all open the door to previously unseen perspectives. We should stop deciding in our individual silos and share our thoughts, especially when it comes to decision-making. A friend, a partner, a business colleague, or a mentor.
Each offers their own unique perspective.
With new perspectives come new ideas. New views previously unseen — add value to the big decision you face. Different outcomes come to mind, as we notice new risks along with new solutions to limit those risks.
Of course, collaboration doesn't guarantee the right outcome, but it does improve the odds you'll make a good decision.
So, before you decide, speak to a friend or colleague and start collaborating over your decisions.
A Quote I’ve Collected
Do you collect quotes?
I do, and here is one that’s got me thinking.
“Most misunderstandings in the world could be avoided if people would simply take the time to ask, "What else could this mean?”
― Shannon L. Alder
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