The Weekly Resolve Email 64

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3 Simple Truths We Forget When It Comes to Deciding

Edition 64 — read on     |  March 29th, 2022

Happy thinking Tuesday!

Here is one quote, one question, and big idea to challenge the way you make decisions and improve your life.

A quote…

“It is not your talents that make you great, but your decisions.”―Shannon L. Alder

A question…

Will this decision make me uncomfortable and force me to grow?

A tweet from Alex Banks

A big idea…

How you talk is how you think.

How you think is how you decide.

How you decide is how you act.

Words define your actions, so use the right ones.


Ignorant of what success takes, we opt to call winners talented. It’s easier to deny the application of well thought through decisions and declare it as talent. The problem becomes worse when we replace our ignorance of success with self-contained arrogance.

Our decisions make us great, not talent.

Behind every bad decision lies an assumption you’ve accepted about what you think you know. The worse assumptions are about ourselves. We are great, we are clever, we are whatever we need to be. Talent is a myth wrapped up in opinions and beliefs that let us fool ourselves.

The quality of our decisions matters so much more than talent. Talent allows for comfort. Great decisions don’t embrace comfort, they discard it.


Growth. In a word, growth.

A great decision makes you uncomfortable. It forces you to grow. Growth doesn’t come with a blanket to help stay warm and comfortable. Far from it, growth requires some pain and some stretching of your abilities to take you forward in a world where standing still invites entropy.

It’s why you’ve got to ask, will this decision make me uncomfortable and force me to grow?

Accepting talent for what it is and seeking discomfort creates your narrative.

The story you tell yourself defines how you think, which in turn sets the approach of how you decide and of course, your decisions turn into actions. Everything begins with the way you talk, not to others, but to yourself.

When you understand this, you can see that talent is nothing more than a false narrative. Being comfortable might feel safe, but it’s only a story.

Words define your actions, so use the right ones.

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Keep on making great decisions!

Darren Matthews

Founder, The Resolve Blog

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